I had a conversation with some Christian brethren last year on the sacred issue of sex. We discussed about the “sexual pollution” of the world and the purity God wants us to have. But as the discussion progressed…. It dawned on me: “In Christianity, sex is NOT UNDERSTOOD, it is FEARED”. We fear sex as if it is the one way ticket to hell, the #1 thing God hates so much.
The thing is that I know enough about God to know that he never wants us to do anything in fear. He always presents all sides of the coin and leave you to make a decision, free will is not a scam. Free will is real. So, I chose to understand sex, so that I can better appreciate my decision to stay pure.
So, I decided to investigate sex. I dug in. dug in deep.
A lot of things I discovered are even too deep for a public post like this, but let me share a little with you.
Have you ever wondered why sex leads to babies? Forget the biological explanation of sperms fertilizing an egg. What about the spirit and soul of the baby??
A human being is more than flesh and blood, I am a Spirit, I have a soul and I live inside a body. Sex is one of the few instances when all 3 aspects of a man comes together. As you log into the woman with your rod, your soul and spirit is getting melded together with hers.
And so, one of the first thing I discovered is that sex is spiritual, sex is not a physical manifestation, it is a spiritual thing.
The SEXUAL energy is a SPIRITUAL energy and it is also a CREATIVE energy. I learnt this from my research which validated other things I had noticed personally about myself.
I am a creative person and I do a lot of brain storming, I used to also struggle with masturbation. I specially noticed that whenever I started thinking about a problem – whether in science, technology, design or business and I focused deep enough, a sexual feeling would begin to warm in my veins and various related thoughts would come, but if I prevailed and brushed it off, somehow channeling my thoughts back to the matter at hand, I would hit a major thought breakthrough.
During my research, I found similar stories. A writer unable to write found out accidentally that by stroking himself to the “edge of release” and then turning back his attention to the matter at hand, he was able to write faster and clearer, as if he had hit a gusher of sorts. (I cannot judge him for masturbating, I leave that to him and God)
Sex creates connections, deep connections that goes beyond the mind. A lot of women are in wrong relationships and they cannot get out because of this sexual bond. Even though everyone can see how awful things are, she cannot. The bond, the link between them overwhelms her mind and it numbs the pains in her body. Very few women can differentiate between sex and love. Guys exploit women a lot on this ground; they just want the sex, but the woman wants the love, she craves for the love.
Can you really differentiate between sex and love? When I tell a woman “I love you”, what mental picture comes into her mind??
I have once heard a guy confess that sometimes he sleeps with some women that brings him “bad luck”. Once you sleep with a woman, you connect with her spirit and soul, you create a connection between you and everyone else she has ever slept with and through these connections, things flow in and out of your life.
Have you ever heard about the concept of “soul-mates” and “soul-ties”? It is very real, in fact, 1 or 2 soul ties have formed between me and some really close female friends that I had to sit down and prayerfully break them off so that I could move on with my life… and I did not even sleep with them o! Just the normal friendship package and maybe a hug here and there. (I now have a stricter no-hugs policy for women close to me)
Sex is spiritual, and spiritual energy can be used to create “room” for you to succeed. The spiritual controls the physical, anything you want to get done in life, whether to graduate from school or build a big company, you need to develop spiritual capacity to handle. Every drop of your spiritual energy is needed, you have to focus it. One more personal experience in this regard, I was once praying for someone when I noticed sexual energy warming up in my veins as I felt the power of God descend. It then dawned on me why anointed pastors fall into sexual sins. This sexual issue is not white and black, it is in complicated and sophisticated shades of gray.
Sex taxes your creative life force in a heavy way, if you are not using it to create life, in terms of sex in a marriage with a goal of bonding with your partner and creating babies, then you are making a poor choice.
Forget about pregnancy scare and contacting diseases, even if you do not get pregnant, many young people are “fucked” out, and that is why they have no vision or purpose for their lives. Some others catch a glimpse of a vision but as long as they keep wasting their life’s creative force via casual sex with multiple partners, they do not retain enough power inside them that can birth the vision.
I am in my mid-twenties and I am the proud father of a great vision. People interact with the fruit of my life’s creative force everyday, they thank me for it, pay me for it and they give glory to God. The energy I use to co-ordinate a dozen life-changing projects everyday is the same energy I need to father a dozen children or “sex up” 3 dozen women or more. By channeling my energy creatively, I believe I am better off.
Staying sexually pure is a smart “business” decision. Sexual energy is best used creatively to make stuff and to create more room for yourself spiritually.
